something i find amusing..
i am gonna copy and paste from the forum .. not flaming though

from FP

http://www.flowerpod.com.sg/forums/index.php?showtopic=38818

a girl posted this qn.

"hey frens ,

this is onli my opinion .. n i welcome all of urs ...

2 mi being friends with other ppl esp opposite sex doesn't have to b whether ur attach or single .. i've come across guys who onli 1 2 b fren wit girls who r single .. wen they no e gal is attach , they will not 1 2 b fren wit em more cuz dun 1 2 interrupt e gal's relationship with her SO .. another reason given that, the SO doesn't care and doesn't love her anymore so let her b free n meet other guys .. i find this stupid reason .. no offence to male podders out there .. i mean, if a girl n her SO trusted each other - which is e most important thing in r/s - den e girl can haf freedom of meetin' new ppl as long she no where her limit is . u no ?

if this is how friendship is gonna b , den e girls have to lie abt their r/s status juz to no more guys .. right ? or not just guys , maybe girls .. who no .

share ur views .. thx"

Do you understand what she was trying to say?
Obviously alot of people dont.

some replies

"i don't really understand your writing"

"Hi threadstarter, I would appreciate if you type in more sensible style. Anyway, I can understand your agony. Many guys here feel that it is not possible to be friends with other opposite sex when they are attached. Perhaps they feel that the bfs or hubby would be jealous or misunderstood them. Anyway, majority hope that the females are singles.

However, that is not the true. And many good ones are taken. And unless the guys are mature or they would not be able to handle well the relationship with the females.

Anyway, why lie unless if you feel that the guys are not mature enough to handle your friendships well. So get other friends lah, no need to lie and be dishonest about your present relationship."

and the reply from the person who posted the question?

"hey all..

sorri if i dun type to well .. but thanks to those who understood wat i'm tryin' to say .. i m proud to haf a stead of 3 yrs .. he himself got to no more girls by tellin' em dat he's single .. well i read somewhere in tis forum dat those who lie abt their status mean they're not proud of their r/s status .. so anyway, he doesn't stay too long with those girls for whatever reason ..

whenever a guy give me those reason, i presume they wan sex frm me .. i'm being honest .. but that's just how i understand .. i mean, y wouldn't they wan to be friend with mi even if i have a stead ..

well thanks for the reply though .. "

Ha?!
tell me how NOT TO BE AMUSE

and someone's reply that made her kept quiet

"i dun understand why ur "stead" of 3 yrs need to lie to girls that he's single... dun you think it's fishy?? i mean you've read it in another thread. and i suppose you shld understand that most guys who doesnt want to admit that they are in a relationship is becos they wanna know other girls.. makin the other girl think tt tis guy is single so that HE will stand a better chance at being "frens" with the girl? .. i presume you're ok with tt??? you think ther's nothing wrong with your "stead" not admittin to a relationship? if your relationship is 3 mths.. i can understand... but 3 yrs?!! and still claim singlehood.... erm.... wat's the purpose of bein in a relationship?


"whenever a guy give me those reason, i presume they wan sex frm me .. i'm being honest .. but that's just how i understand .. i mean, y wouldn't they wan to be friend with mi even if i have a stead .. "

R u tryin to say tt whenever a guy who claims tt he's SINGLE and wans to be FRENS with you, means he wants SEX????? if yes... issit tt exactly wat your "stead" is doin??? so which means he wants to hv sex with other girls? u ok with tt?? think abt it girl.."

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simply put, Why need to disguise your status?
single means single
attached means attached
Why need to lie to make new friends?
Why cant be upfront when people ask about your status?
Why the guys think that status is a HINDRANCE..to friendship?
i have only one word to say.
"CHILDISH"

i just take it that the guys cant handle a PLATONIC relationship.. why make things so complicated?
Does that mean than being attached must have all same gender friends?
Not possibly so.
However you also need to know your boundaries too.