random musings from HER WORLD

i need a new internet provider..
dial-up modem is really horrible with its frequent disconnection and stuff like that ..

and i was reading this article from HER WORLD

IS YOUR MAN HOLDING YOU HOSTAGE?
not literally but emotionally
its termed STOCKHOLM RELATIONSHIP SYNDROME

they make you feel like a queen/princess, says their world revolves around you and make unrealistic promises, have a whole future planned out after a handful of dates etc
its empty talk
AND THEN
they show u their temper and try to make up for it afterwards..
and their women?
cut off from outside world and no one to give an objective perspective, the women will pin the cause of their "badly behaved" men on themselves..

so what's the problem with the guys?
pathological inability to understand anybody else's viewpoint or the impact of their behaviour

truth be told ..
i need plans ..
not just visions ..
i am learning to be MORE INDEPENDENT of you as i think it will be healthier
to lead a seperate life when NOT together
i did not stop you from choosing or going out with YOUR GROUP of friends so you shouldnt interfere with mine too
i will not go to the extend of thinking that my friends are like "oh he must have hidden agendas"
i am not dumb, i am not some whiny gal that likes to be the damsel of of some knights in armour

i just believe my friends like me the way i am.
confident, hold my stand and can be a good talker
and not those superficial traits
if i can click better with the guys its cause i can talk better with them, argue as well or even agree on the same topics
simple as that

after reading that article
i feel more determined to NOT be LEAD BLINDLY

and sometimes i wonder ..
"why arent you eager to wish that i propel higher?"
i think i work better with competition HAHAHAHHAHAHA