saw this thread in flowerpod

"Is Ur bf In Ns?, how do u all cope wif less meeting ups?"

there are replies like this

"My SO went in last year June. Initially I really can't adapt.. cried almost everyday but luckily it didn't affect my life. Coz not as if I miss him till I can't eat, sleep or study."

"envy those bf can book out everyday..=) i seriously will wait for him.. coz i feel it is worth it.. but i will miss him alot... now if i don see him abt 2 days will miss him alot.. wonder hope i cope when he go NS...but i will be working liao.. so will be busy wif other things... but when married can spend alot time tog liao.. is gd enough i guess=) want to be married so can see him everyday.. if i am not wrong... guys who are married can book out everyday..and lesser job loads.. i heard someone say.. coz the guy can tell his commander or whoever.. he need take care of wife .. haha.. corrrect me if i am wrong"

"yea... feel like getting married lei... although i am pretty young.. but age is not a prob unless i am 16.. ple get married much earlier.. hmm like that he don have to stay in that place.. but how to convince my parents to let me marry... when marry i can also hav freedom liao...want to stay tog wif my SO.. SG law sucks... ple in US volunteers for NS... all the other countries fault.. if they no war.. u guys don need suffer two yrs of torture... and i heard it is easy to die in NS while training coz ur commanders all those are inhuman? correct me if i am wrong. no wonder everyone wants world peace...."

"stupid lor..the commanders there like to torture their men... thats why i so worry for my SO.. cmon la..train so hard for what man,,, useless la... hate NS...gd thing i not a guy...no need go NS...shd just let ple volunteer and make pay extra high sure got ple go one la.. stupid ass
want to see my So everyday or else not happy.. "

i was thinkin .. gettin married cause she can meet him everyday
isnt tat a TOO CHILDISH thinking..
gettin married not because they are prepared to
but because she MUST SEE HIM EVERYDAY, cant LIVE WITHOUT HIM

its only NS wat..
wat happens when he goes out to work?
he cant possible have 24hrs for her..
and what is she to do then? sulk abt it and complain that he shouldnt work?

where is her independence?
she is so RELIANT ON THE GUY

i seriously dun understand

she can actually say she wanna get married young and age is not a prob.

gettin married with wat?
use wat to get married?
still have nothin to their names yet ..
no finances, no housin, no careers

u cant live on a diet of hope
love cannot put bread and butter on the table

maybe to diff ppl
their idea of spendin time is diff..

he's a guy for goodness sake
if he cant handle.. how he cope with difficulties if he should encounter in the future

and my guy is a commander ..
i cant stand the way she ACCUSE THE COMMANDERS.. its not they are psychos or watsoever
its part of procedures..
everyone undergoes the same shit in army ..

i believe in practical love
i dun need to see the person everyday
i believe the heart and mind are more powerful than visual .
u can be with the person but the heart may not be there
u can DUN BE with the person but he's always there..in your mind..

love is a wonderous thing
but it shouldnt hamper your life