recommendation

of a book for the Self.

Anthony Storr
Solitude:The Return to the Self.

i found the recommendation of this book in today's Straits Times and thought it might be worth a read.

some words from the column "Young and desperately in need of some 'alone' time"

"all human beings face two opposing drives in life, the 'drive for companionship and love' and 'towards being independent, seperate and autonomous".

"constant need for companionship can be unhealthy"

"peak experiences-profound moments of love, happiness or rapture when a person feels more whole, alive, self-sufficient and yet part of the world-depend on being free of other people, neurotic involvements, needy relationships, obligations and hangovers."

"only by being alone, can we become our real and authentic selves, because we are not consumed with 'we' and ignore our own growth."

you can agree or disagree with his ideals.
but i believe, SELF is the part that is most often neglected.

For people who are over-reliant on interpersonal relationships to find their sense of Self, its time to sit back and reflect and to really seek for Self, what can be done to make own Self more worthy.

i am learning too.