JEWEL- You were meant for me

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somethin i came across in a forum

"Should hubby give allowance?"

part of the contents

"My qns is, since I am working and he is as well, is it right for me to ask for Wife allowance. I never checked with my other frens.. cos sensitive. But do any married ladies out there get any allowance fr hubby despite working?
what do you think? "

some replies

"What is the main objective of marrying him? To have an extra allowance from him?"

"I attended marriage prep course when husbands were encouraged to give allowance to wife whether working or not. Not sure what the rationale was. Personally, I would like husband to give me some allowance. The amount is not important but it's the gesture.. a commitment towards me."

"I think getting an alowance is quite an archaic idea isn't it? In this case, should our hubbies be allowed to expect us to do the housework? (Also a traditional role mah)"

"to me, Marriage Prep course is like going school... and it's good for those who needs to have instructions and rules to follow.

being S'poreans, some of us will take everything taught, and use it like rules. and quote these rules. i had enough of "my teacher say we must...", "my father say we should....". Yeah, it's good for pple with no minds of their own to determine what is Right, and what is Wrong. basically for followers... little Sheeps that need herding.

if u learnt life, lived life and u're exposed to moral/ethical issues often enough, u dun need a guide to tell u what's right and wrong. Worse - u use the Subjects discussed to tell pple what's right what's wrong.

anyway get an allowance if u need it. settle yourself if u dun. When we discuss modern day, some women will stand up and say how capable women are nowadays... and i agree! then if back home u're demanding for allowance, i'll lose my respect for u immediately.

my peeve is MODERN DAY FEMINISTS who want the exercise double standards when it comes to domestic issues"

"hubby should give monthly allowance to wife ideally, will you force it on your hubby when this may result in him in having tighter cashflow and not able to live comfortably as you (who has more cashflow)?"

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Allowances is always good to have. BUT I dont mind NOT having too next time.WE have to earn our keep.

Some may say I dont have one that is financially capable of covering everything for me that is why i am saying all these. Jealously maybe?

Maybe i havent gotten a man who can really cover everything for me. Maybe i dont even need one that can. I dont like the feeling of being "indebted". Maybe at least when i spend my own money. I wont have to ask for second opionion hahahaha

ANd I do not wish for the time whereby the other half, from "covering ME", has less cashflow for himself. AINT IT UNFAIR?

Of course the opposite applies too.

I wouldnt want a man who can splurge on himself and his stuff and other committements that he's so miserly with his money on his other half. To calculate everything in halves, to claim and to get back money of the other half's "personal indulgences" with HIS money.

I equate earning power and spending amount to generousity.

eg 300 on the gf with 3K paycheck OR 300 on the gf with 1K paycheck?

MONEY is always a tricky issue. It's a matter of how the individuals cope with their financial spending and allocation.