Saturday, August 30, 2008

Dear said he missed me so he came over last night and xiao mei, me and dear walked snoopi around the neighbourhood :)

Today, went school with dear for his classes and I met my groupmates for project.
Project was exhausting but I had cooperative groupmates so it was bearable.
We discussed project from 930 till 4pm lol then I went Jurong East to meet Mum while dear went home after his class.
Told dear he should be happy that he has such an independent gf :P

Mum and I went grocery and toiletries shopping at Guardian and NTUC then Dad met us for dinner and we went to ShopNSave after that.

And we bought 4 tubs of ice-cream LOL. We took a bus back then dad and I trimmed and bathed Snoopi. Tomorrow will be discussing project again then depending on the time, will find time to meet dear again.





MINI strawberries

icecream~

Mum's

Friday, August 29, 2008

Man charged for underaged sex

RODNEY Sim Hang Nge has the dubious honour of being the first man to be brought to court for allegedly having sex with an underaged prostitute.
The law was amended in Oct 2007 to make it an offence to hire a prostitute below the age of 18. The punishment is a fine or a jail term of up to seven years or both.

The police prosecutor told District Judge Adrian Soon that it was the first case of its kind here.

Sim, 60, is accused of obtaining sex from a 17-year-old prostitute for $100 on Aug 3 and two days later for $30, both occasions in a Geylang hotel.

Sim, who had initially wanted to plead guilty, had told the judge that a jail term would mean he would lose his job and family.

Sobbing in the dock, he said: 'My wife will divorce me and my son and daughter will disown me. I've had my job for 35 years and it too will be gone.'

He did not state his occupation. The hearing was adjourned when Sim decided to hire a lawyer.

Minutes earlier at another district court, Sim's pimp was fined $8,000 for supplying the same 17-year-old prostitute to 55-year-old Tan Chye Hin Sim on Aug 4.

Wang Minjiang, 36, had also pleaded guilty to bringing in prostitutes, living on immoral earnings and managing a place in a Geylang coffee shop for the purpose of prostitution. He was fined $17,000.

His nephew,Wang Youyi, 31, was also fined $17,000 for similar offences. The court heard that the two men got two prostitutes, aged 17 and 19, from China on July 31.

They would provide free lodging and food and the women would charge $80 to $100 for sex in nearby hotels. They could keep their earnings from the initial three days, after which, the pimps will collect $100 a day.

The court ordered that the names of the prostitutes not be published.

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anyway though there's COMEX now, I have nothing necessary to buy, so to prevent myself from spending UNnecessarily, I decided to not even go there.
Gadgets, you can never outwin their advancement and pace at which they are being rolled out into the market.

TILL i am proven otherwise LOL
I dont have mp3, no handheld player not even a hifi in my room, i dont have camera and even proper speakers for my com and i have been fine with it.
I dont even have a proper tv in my house, cause the sets too old and are faulty often and that explains why I dont watch tv shows frequently.
I guess i'm a "technophobic" person LOL
So I guess its more of a personal choice, though I envy the latest gadgets, I wont be that compelled to get it till... it really gets to my head :P

Thursday, August 28, 2008

女怕嫁错郎,男怕选错行

以前:
女人的婚姻对女人来说是生命,如果错了就不能回头了,所以女人最怕的是嫁错了人.以前的社会女人要对男人从一而终,男人却可以三心二意.
对于男人来说,养老婆和孩子,是天经地义,是男人的责任,所以男人要在外面赚钱,想要赚钱就要选对行业.一般男怕选错行这个行指的是不正经的职业,或者不正当的职业.

现在:
女人可以自由选择自己的婚姻,但是受传统观念影响的人还是很多,所以对于婚姻,女人都想要有结果.所以更要选对人.
在女人地位越来越高的今天,男人的大男子主义犹为明显,事业对大多数男人来说是占第一位的.

Agree? if not there wont be such a high divorce rate out there.
However I dont agree with the career for men part, why must women sacrifice to be the "dutiful stay at home" person? Cant they both share roles? There has been a discussion going on about how women/mothers would want their husbands to share more of the parenting responsibilites or else with the house matters. Sad to say, there isnt approval for month long paternity leave.
If that is the case, working mothers are so much greater than the fathers.

Another reason why I pamper my mum, she works, cooks our meals and pack the house nicely, gossip with us, even babysit my puppy when I am not around.
I will pamper her as much as i want hahahah.
I believe what goes around comes around.

Innocent OR NOT.

Govt defends A-G's stand
Law Minister reiterates that 'not guilty in law' does not mean 'innocent'
By K.C.Vijayan, Law Correspondent

A MAN is charged with a crime. After a trial, he is acquitted and goes free. Does that mean he is innocent?
Not necessarily.

Witnesses may have changed their evidence, or a technicality may have got in the way. What this amounts to: The prosecution is unable to convince the judge that the man had done the deed.

And once there is any reasonable doubt as to an accused's guilt, duty requires that the judge acquit him.

Law Minister K. Shanmugam told Parliament yesterday: 'It is entirely possible for a person to have committed acts which amount to a crime and yet, there may be no conviction. I emphasise this: No serious lawyer will question this possibility.'

He was responding to two lawyer-MPs, who wanted him to clarify the position of the Attorney-General on the subject of acquittals. The issue has been up in the air since mid-May, when Attorney-General Walter Woon stated that an acquitted person may be 'not guilty' in law, but 'guilty' in fact.

Two months later, Appeal Court Judge V. K. Rajah weighed in on the issue. He did not refer to what the Attorney-General said, but made it clear that such comments could undermine confidence in the courts' verdicts and the criminal justice system, which is based on the doctrine of 'innocent until proven guilty'.

Not so, said Mr Shanmugam.

He described the presumption of innocence as an 'important and fundamental principle' which the Government is 'absolutely committed to upholding'.

'There is no intention to question or qualify that principle in any way. I am surprised that any doubt should at all have arisen about this.'

The Government has no intention of encroaching on the functions of the courts either, he added. 'It is for the courts, and the courts alone, to exercise judicial power and decide the question of guilt, in a trial.'

The Attorney-General's position is similar to that of his predecessor, Mr Chan Sek Keong, now the Chief Justice, Mr Shanmugam said.

CJ Chan had pointed out in a lecture in 1996 that the trial process was designed to prove guilt, not innocence.

Quoting from the lecture, Mr Shanmugam reported the then Attorney-General as saying that the presumption of innocence amounts to saying an accused person is 'legally innocent'.

'It is simply an expression that in a criminal trial, the prosecution is obliged to prove its case beyond reasonable doubt,' said Mr Shanmugam.

The system in places such as England and Scotland is similar. In fact, Scotland has a third verdict - 'not proven' - besides 'guilty' and 'not guilty'. While 'not guilty' is a positive declaration of innocence, 'not proven' implies that guilt has not been conclusively proven.

Even as he stuck to his guns, Mr Shanmugam cautioned against jumping the other way. 'Just as a person acquitted may not necessarily be innocent, he may well also be, in fact, innocent.'

Lawyers The Straits Times contacted said the concepts of legal innocence and factual guilt have always been there, and agreed with Mr Shanmugam that accused persons may sometimes go free.

Association of Criminal Lawyers Singapore president Subhas Anandan said he had defended clients in the past who were acquitted for one reason or other, but whom he felt were guilty in fact.

'An accused person is not going to bother if he is factually guilty. All he wants is to be be able to walk away free.'

The reverse also applies: where a person is factually innocent but legally guilty. 'This happens where the accused wants to plead guilty to a lesser charge and end the case... because his interest is to walk away as quickly as possible.'

Wednesday, August 27, 2008

new dresses(updated-28/08)






Any comments to which is nice?

I wanna get new dresses!
Its easier to wear than always trying to match top and bottom
maybe its time to hit the malls lol

BBQ pics










the newly weds whose wedding i attended this jan

jeff n candy

yixiang and xaviere

taken from kaeling's facebook, which was held weeks ago.
Did I say I love bbqing?
Looking back, I think I am gaining weight again argh
Gotta look good for next week's siying's ROM heh

Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Good Intention Wrong motivation

To the enhanced Baby Bonus that is.
I just feel that the government is neglecting the more essential problems and going straight for monetary benefits.
Not all couples will be entice by the money initiatives which is 6K for the first and second child. Though its good to have that sum for couples who intend to have, but for those who do not intend to have or who are already earning well, it takes much more than just money sense.

Instead they should look into "what does a family need?"
and go for the various factors and how to enhace receptivity to it.
eg, money is very important in keeping a family thus the need to instill money management skills into youngsters first even before trying to use SDU to invade their orientations and making "good clean fun" into "match-making sessions"
A worrying report recently mentioned about 15% of bankrupts are people below 30 due to them "living up" either through swiping their credit cards, cars etc

Have more counselling or get-together sessions for couples who plan to get married to explore the factors in keeping a marriage/family together or to explore the reasons to start a family than to just use "family oriented commercials"

Instill the importance of family bonding from young, I have seen families losing its unity as soon as the child goes to work thus the "advantages" of a family might not sit well with these people.

Imagine you want to start a family but for all the wrong reasons.
How long can 6K last anyway with inflation at 7%?

like someone said, "words are cheap, talk is easy"

Before even starting a family, let's talk about marriage.
A friend commented that marriage is not the "ending point" for dating life. Its the start to a lifetime of more responsibilities and commitment with other positive aspects too.

I believe, marriage is because "the two persons are willing to share their responsibilities, to be each other solace and support for that next phrase in life"

Monday, August 25, 2008

Humour

We just celebrated our 5th year anniversary however an incident or should I say a lack of "sense of humour" marred my mood, for awhile.

Though it's been over for weeks, I just wanted to say it out.
Dear was commenting to his friends that this yr's our 5th year and his friends actually said something about cherishing it cause it wont last after the 6th year cause another of his friend had somehow set the "standard" for the longest relationship at 6 yrs+.

It aint funny and I am not amused.
And dear said I had no sense of humour.

blah.

Sorry then, my humour is not for such jokes.
Maybe I am always very serious.
Maybe I aint the "dainty gf"
Maybe I cant "follow the rules"
But its Just ME.
The last thing I want to be is to be an empty vessel, not voicing out anything.
"Yes, No, Huh?" are not the only words in my vocab.

Maybe it doesnt seem anything to dear or the guys.

If I want, I could be very sarcastic.
But I prefered to kept my mouth shut, cause it's their personal matter, no matter how much I think the gal/guy sucks in the relationship, or I think what should be done, I prefer not to pinpoint anymore now.


Cause I am not them, they are not me.


Anyway, I'm am peace now lol.

Sunday, August 24, 2008

My fav channel


Discovery!
I love to learn new things, how not to? When there's so much more out there?
some of my fav series include:
-MythBusters
-How It's Made
-The greatest catch
-Future weapons
-engineering marvels
Discovery Travel and living is good too~

I learned something new from "extreme olympics" about the Olympic Mascots and went to google search and this is what i got
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fuwa






Sat 23/08


Had class in the afternnon and then dear waited for me till my class ended and we went West Mall to have KFC for dinner lol
So sinful.. then we went back my place to watch online movies.

Sun 24/08

Today we went boon lay marketplace for breakfast at 9+ in the morning and did alittle marketing before going back back home. After that we made our way back to dear's place.
It's been raining whole day,kinda explained my appetite, been eating whole day with dear, for lunch we went 328 KATONG LAKSA
then crossed over to Marine Parade to YA KUN for my cuppa kopi O.

These two days I had been lazing around before I gear up for assignments during weekdays again.tsk tsk..

Now waiting for the Olympics Closing ceremony, another marvel of the chinese people.

very smooth gravy which taste a tad too strong of coconut milk and lacking in spicy factor, kinda stingy with ingredients to me considering this bowl cost $4.50 but its a good variation, not your convention laksa



my messy puppy
my faithful companion whenever I am home alone after work or during the weekends.

Friday, August 22, 2008

I feel so disappointed, but oh well.
tonight shall go back read more articles and start the group assignment already.
and also trim my puppy's fur -_- VERY messy lar by scissors first though

I found the model of clipper i want, waiting for free time to get it

and it'll set me back by another 200 -_-" but always better than to have a messy rug lying around the house LOL
A grooming session costs around 50 so by getting a proper clipper can save some trips to the grooming studio.

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for professional heavy-duty use

Switch has two speed settings:
Normal - for most cutting needs and
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Runs so cool, it requires no annoying
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face and your animal''s face

Maintenance free - no oiling or
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Detachable blades for ease of
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All Model AG blade sets are made
of high carbon steel, specially
hardened for long cutting life

Perosnality Disorder

Maid's life term set aside, psychiatric evidence to be relooked

THE Court of Appeal yesterday set aside the life term of an Indonesian maid who had killed her employer's 75-year-old mother, and sent the case back to the trial judge.
It wanted the trial judge to re-evaluate the psychiatric evidence, which the three-judge court yesterday described as 'incomplete' and 'uncertain', in the light of new reports presented at the appeal.

About this case
ONE morning in October 2005, 75-year-old Wee Keng Wah caught her maid sneaking back into her Chai Chee flat after meeting a boyfriend.

In the row that followed, the maid, Barokah (above), knocked Madam Wee (below) unconscious and pushed her to her death from a ninth-floor window.

She admitted to manslaughter last November and was sentenced to life in prison.

Psychiatrists diagnosed her with depression.

One said she might have a personality disorder that made her reliant on men.

The married woman, who has a son with her husband, had two affairs which resulted in children.
In sending Barokah to prison for life, Justice Tay Yong Kwang pointed to her cold-bloodedness in throwing an unconscious elderly woman from the ninth floor.

He said her personality disorder, coupled with a violent temperament, might land her in a similar situation to commit another crime.
This could have an impact on her life sentence.

Among the issues to be resolved: Does 29-year-old Barokah have a personality disorder that makes her dependent on men and afraid of being abandoned?
The lower-court judge had decided that the disorder made her likely to commit a violent crime again.

Barokah had pushed Madam Wee Keng Wah from their ninth-floor Chai Chee flat in 2005 after the elderly woman scolded her for sneaking out to meet a man.

She escaped the gallows as the original murder charge was reduced after she was diagnosed by psychiatrists to be moderately depressed. The prosecution psychiatrist, Dr Tommy Tan, also said that she may have a dependent personality disorder (DPD).

She pleaded guilty to manslaughter last November and was sentenced by the High Court to life in prison.

First heard in April, her appeal was adjourned for further psychiatric reports to be submitted. One issue was whether her pregnancy at the time of the murder had affected her mental state.

Yesterday, at the resumption of the appeal hearing, the court focused on whether Barokah truly had a personality disorder.

It was one reason that the trial judge, Justice Tay Yong Kwang, had put her away for life.

He felt that Barokah would need to be involved with a man again, and this would lead again to depression.

Justice Tay ruled that, with her personality disorder and violent temperament, it was likely that 'something will flare up again and that someone in future will get hurt badly, if not killed'.

Yesterday, in arguing against the life term, her lawyer, Senior Counsel Harpreet Singh Nehal, highlighted that Dr Tan had not affirmed that the maid had DPD in his supplementary report.

On the other hand, the defence psychiatrist, Dr R. Nagulendran, was unequivocal that she did not have DPD.

This sparked comments by the appeal judges that the psychiatrists appearing for both sides had differing opinions.

Justice V.K. Rajah noted that the psychiatrists were 'not on the same page' and seemed to be qualifying their reports with suppositions.

When Deputy Public Prosecutor Han Ming Kuang suggested that further reports could be submitted, Justice Andrew Phang remarked that this would lead to a 'perpetual tennis match'.

'Because of the uncertainty and tentativeness of the psychiatrists' conclusion, it's unsafe for us to rely on one or another,' said Justice Rajah.

The appeals court sent the case back to the High Court for the psychiatrists, as well as anyone else who knew about her mental health at the time, to be questioned on the stand.

No trial dates have been fixed.

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I never know this is considered a personality disorder, being "reliant on men".

However, I hope the accused will get her retribution and deserving sentence.

Thursday, August 21, 2008

Interesting finds



Mood CHanging Nail polishes
works like ur mood bracelet/rings.

anyone interested?

Reasons to Get Married OR NOT. Singaporean style(edited)

Singaporeans..
Who have no dreams, goals.


"In Singapore you start living by yourself [only] when you register for a flat and get married, which kind of sucks because so many things hit you at the same time.

You haven’t even learned how to manage your own finances; now you’re expected to manage finances of your new family and cope with a bunch of other things and make decisions, which have been made for you for the past 20+ years.

So it’s a big culture shock I think for Singaporeans: people need to feel some sort of impact in their lives before they care about things."

You're a pain, but let's get married anyway

"Among those in the survey who consider themselves unhappy, most cited disagreements with their partners on a number of issues, or said they disliked their partners' personality or that there were problems communicating effectively..."

which means although people dislike their partners or couldnt communicate well still get married in the end

and just for fun

Here I dispense top 10 reasons you should not use to get married

1) All my friends are getting married, it must be my cue...
Wake up your idea, girlfriend! Who cares if your friends are getting married!??! This is a once in a lifetime thing, so if you haven't found that special someone, don't rush.... as Phua Chu Kang says it best, DON'T PWAY PWAY!!!!

2) I better get married before my and my bf's income exceeds $8K (cannot ballot for HDB flat anymore!!!!!)
Honey, if you marry the wrong person, the procedures for signing the divorce/annulment papers will set you back a couple of wedding rings.

I have heard of cases eg, the couple requested their employer NOT to raise their pay so that their total income can be below 8K and thus can qualify for HDB and all the subsidies.

3) I want to live away from my parents.
Yeap, living away from your parents and "feeding" yourself probably means, welcome to your new life of lifelong mortgages and an unending stream of debts (think weter, electricity, car, furniture installments).

Yes, THINK AGAIN. Do you really wanna get weaned off your parents???

I also heard of couples living off(not with) their parents after they got married.
why marry when you cant even support yourself duh, how to even support your family when you have kids, "oh never mind, hubby/parents can take care of everything, he should be glad that i am willing to marry him"

4) If I tie my bf down then he won't cheat on me anymore (if he already is or has not yet)
Girls, men don't change after marriage. If they do, it's NEVER for the better. Shackling them down means shackling yourself down. Why settle?

maybe he has been cheating just that you are the "permanent and official" gf to bring to parents

5) Doesn't matter if divorce, I get 50% anyway
Yeah, just that if you do get divorced, the chances of you finding another man that's eligible and willing to overlook that is 50% also.... (not saying that all divorced women are bad, depends on situations right?)

there's the thing called the pre-nuptial agreement

6) I can have parental consent for "premarital sex"
Yeap, you've just signed your own consent form to being the lifelong "slave" of a testosterone molecule oozing of ego. Yeap, you also have consented to, like I said paying all your bills yourself, washing your husband's underwear, washing the house, washing the floor, ironing a mountain of clothes, cooking dinner and meals for 2 people.

i already seen on forums the extend of underage sex or premartial sex
someone asked why there's no age group for below 16 at which gals lose their virginity,
its call RAPE, if you do not know.
the papers never publish the number of young mummies or young couples who "shotgun" only
enough said

7) No more excuse or disapproval to stay overnight at his place
R you dumb or R u dumb? Would you give up 2 houses for 1?

8) Sounds fun! Never tried it before! I'm adventurous! Plus it come with a free diamond ring!!!
Yup, if you like adventure so much, go live in the Alcatraz. Free diamond ring? More like your payment to sell yourself to slavery.

then what have you been doing before getting married?

9) I can be a tai tai and talk cock sing, song and play mahjong all day long!
Wat to talk cock? Go find the ah peks at the coffeeshop, wanna play mahjong, come find me, want to sing song ... go Kbox can? More worth it...

wow, such meaningful life.

Life AFTER marriage?

10) I want a baby as a pet!
I'm sure you do. I mean all you have to do for this new pet is wake up every 2 hours to let him nibble on your tits, wipe it's shit filled stinky ass and burp spoilt milk in your face. Y not?

what happens if the baby outgrown its "cuteness factor"?

*****

though the reasons are made in jest, its not all without basis.
Not meaning to demean those who are married or those getting married, its all for the fun of it :P
after all the "baby/marriage talk" recently
What are YOUR reasons to get married then?

Wednesday, August 20, 2008

I hope I can scrap through the paper.. so subjective... tsk tsk
I really spent alot of time preparing the questions and fucking memorising the case studies/theories already...

I hate this feeling..

Monday, August 18, 2008

I need a much stronger support.

Maybe I should just stand more firmly on my own and not depend on anyone.

like an emperor

17/08/08
i caught my sis and puppy watching tv together


(notice his hands or paws :P)

(this is how he sits usually, like a "pai kia")

gonna bring mum out for breakfast lol gonna try Aston's Express at Jurong east. Shall review soon
ooh gonna get a shaver(like finally lol)for snoopi too gosh he's so messy again ><
18/08/08
Yesterday brought mum to Jurong East to try Aston's Express.
It reminded me of Botak Jones, cafe food at kopitiam, though slightly more expenisve than the usual western food stalls.
Mum had her Xtra cut Prime ribeye while I had the grilled chicken lol
shall update pics later
Luckily Mum loves it :)

it's BIG and the mashed potatoes is really potato, not the instant type and the meat is tender yet alittle burnt at the edges giving it a smoky taste


Grilled chicken, not as good as the steak, meat not firm enough to me but the pasta salad is alittle sourish,guess its balsamic vinegar, good as appetizer

Then we walked around Jurong East and went to this baking supplies shop.. I am so tempted to make cupcakes! hmm but first must check whether the microwave at home can bake or not -_-
Then we went to find Snoopi's shaver but it needs to be ordered so we shall go back to source out the model before placing order.

On the way home, mum was talking to me about some of the people she knew who complained about how their children "abandon" the family especially the parents when they gotten into a relationship, even more so after they gotten married and not even contributing abit to the family, not that they cant afford but they chose not to, to even spend alittle time and the money.
So i just said, " aint you lucky to have me now?"
hahahahha
oops i sound arrogant.

Last night dear just came over for dinner and we studied together at night and then this morning he came work with me to photocopy some stuff and he went to study by himself again.
I'll miss the time with him but I believe, and he believes too, that we have more important things on hand now.
And so I saw the bf less than half a day for the whole of last week.

Cant wait for all the tests and assignments to be over so that we can take a breather for more quality time together and then gear up for the final exams.

I miss the bf but we will preserve. :)

Hope for the Stock?

The Return of the Matchmaker

"SINGAPORE: In 10 years’ time, Singaporeans may not remember today’s inflation rate. What will, however, continue to occupy the minds of the Government and citizens: How Singapore can have more babies."

"The Prime Minister recounted the tale of a single man looking for a wife. The man reportedly told a marriage bureau that he wanted a woman who was independent and doing well in her career. What else do you need, asked the marriage bureau? His response: “She must also be absolutely submissive and obedient!” said Mr Lee, to laughter from the audience. “The problem is where to find such women.”

Citing another anecdote of three young Beijing women, he recounted how they told an interviewer they would choose their job over a boyfriend or fiance.

Male or female, young people need to take “a realistic view” towards marriage and find the right balance with their career, said Mr Lee. Otherwise, they might miss out on chances at love and happiness, and the best window to have children."

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Lessons in love for teens

"The Social Development Unit (SDU) yesterday called for a public tender for the appointment of an agent to “design, conceptualise, produce, promote and launch a youth relationship programme for tertiary institutes and JCs”. "

"The relationship courses and classes aim to equip our youths with healthy relationship management and negotiation skills, and to inculcate in them positive values towards dating and marriage.” "

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I seriously wonder what they meant by "positive values" and "healthy relationship".
Imagine "a dummy's guide to dating" or "Protocol to snag that PERFECT husband/wife"

I do not think it is workable, though its informative. It can only be serve as a guideline and the counsellors should do more follow up instead with INDIVIDUAL cases than have a "one model fits all" approach for everyone.
Cause no one can think like everyone else.

Sunday, August 17, 2008

(08+08)/08/08 (added new pics)

A dear colleague's wedding

I did not manage to catch much pictures as the place was packed and there werent enough time to take a proper shot of the gorgeous bride
she was wearing a white western wedding gown! lacy and with train!
and we had cupcakes as a wedding favour, sweet.
What touched me most was the moment the groom got emotional and teary when he was thanking his wife for her patience, for the 7 years together and for getting over an obstacle and being apart due to "unforseen circumstances"
I sincerely wish them a blissful marriage.







and below are taken from cecilia





*****
AND i like my eye makeup today

falsies+black eyeliner+black mascara+glittery grey ES and silver base and alittle white eyeliner
oh and alittle blusher to top it up :)



i need a better cam shucks.