Tuesday, August 31, 2010

HDB new housing rules

it's about time

Govt introduces new measures to cool S'pore property market

Analysts say new housing measures will help cool red-hot resale market

some highlights

-private property owners who buy a non-subsidised HDB flat must sell off their private property within six months

-buyers of flats who did not receive any subsidies may not buy a private property during the minimum occupation period (MOP) of their HDB flat (5yrs)

-home seller must pay a stamp duty(now 3yrs holding period) and reducing the maximum bank loan amount for existing home owners who want to buy another property(minimum cash payment has been doubled from five per cent to 10 per cent of the home's valuation, while the maximum bank loan amount has been reduced from 80 to 70 per cent)

-waiting time for a BTO flat will be reduced by six months to 2-1/2 years

-those earning between S$8,000 and S$10,000 will now be eligible for flats under the Design, Build and Sell Scheme (DBSS).

more in Tuesday's Print edition of THE STRAITS TIMES.

In summary, from HDB website

Monday, August 30, 2010

No reason

I was talking to bf last friday when the topic about having complementary people in a relationship came up.
we were talking about how the two of us are so different yet can be together.

World English Dictionary
complementary or complemental (ˌkɒmplɪˈmɛntərɪ, -trɪ)

— adj
1. acting as or forming a complement; completing
2. forming a satisfactory or balanced whole


He joked about me being the "straight" person while he is the "streetsmart"
then how "serious" i am with him being "excitement seeker"

then he went on to say my good pt is i am "safe"
hahaha
I like to think that it meant i am "mature"

then i probed him further.. then his reply "you do not need a reason to love someone"

Sometimes I wish

Mum can stop harping on issues such as

when am i getting married
when am i having kids
how many kids i have

GRRR..

GETTING MARRIED AND HAVING KIDS ARE NOT THE SOLE PURPOSES OF A WOMAN'S EXISTENCE.

it's getting on my nerves sometimes
when i thought she's not so conservative and traditional like other mothers.
and when she had to bring up these topics in front of my relatives.
oh well, at least she makes it sound like teasing instead of criticizing... though it still irritates me.
I am quite immune in front of them already, always shaking them off politely.

it's better to be really prepared then to get married for the sake of getting married or because
"everyone around me is getting married"

*grumbles grumbles*

for now, I just wish to finish my studies, go for my Graduation, get a promotion, , jumpstart a NEW career!

A quote

“It is not noble to be more superior than others.

The true nobility is to be more superior than your former self.”

Friday, August 27, 2010

Housing

i was reading Straitstimes online in the afternoon and one of the "Most Popular" at the sidebar was this

'Buy a flat you can afford'

And I know the puggol waterway terrace just released result got balloting so I went to check out the brochure again, I tot why the huge demand, is it that affordable?

and this is what I compiled



so imagine your flat cost 380K for 4 room
(no one will take the lowest price)
20%=76K

you have to pay 76k as downpayment
5% cash=19K
15% using CPF=57K

of course I haven add in the various grants
but I wonder if ALL the 7000+ people who ballot are REALLY financially prepared or book "out of kiasu-ness"? depriving those in need of flats cause I read lots of complaints on forums

tsk tsk

HRD presentations

two presentations caught my interest last night during class
One is on the "5 languages of love"
the other is the DISC profiling.

what I found online

The 5 Love Languages
What if you could say or do just the right thing guaranteed to make that special someone feel loved? The secret is learning the right love language! Millions of couples have learned the simple way to express their feelings and bring joy back into marriage: The 5 Love Languages, Dr. Gary Chapman’s New York Times bestseller! Words of Affirmation—Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

Quality Time
In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

Receiving Gifts
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.

Acts of Service
Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

Physical Touch
This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

Take the assessment
what is yours?

Thursday, August 26, 2010

Issues

close to home.

No CPF for studies abroad

THE Government will not allow parents to use their Central Provident Fund (CPF) savings to pay for their children's overseas education because it fears that these parents will be left with little retirement savings should the children not repay the money.

Under the current scheme, CPF monies can be used to pay for children's education in local universities, but not all children pay back the monies to their parents' accounts, revealed Education Minister Ng Eng Hen yesterday at a dialogue with Pasir Ris residents.

He was responding to a question from resident Mohd Anuar, who asked the Government to reconsider the policy, to ease the burden of parents who send their children for studies abroad.

CPF members can use up to 40 per cent of their Ordinary accounts to pay for their children's education in local tertiary institutions, but not foreign ones.

'The CPF issue is a difficult one. I know how parents feel; they love their children very much and feel very responsible,' said Dr Ng. 'If we allow the CPF to be used for overseas education, I know that a lot of parents will use that money.'

Joining the discussion, MP for Pasir Ris-Punggol GRC Ahmad Magad revealed that both his daughters used his CPF savings for their local university education

5 per cent of graduates defaulted on CPF loans

SINGAPORE - After leaving university, a graduate owed $4,700 that he used from his mother's Central Provident Fund (CPF) account before he finally got in touch with the CPF Board to start monthly repayments of $200. He then had to defer payment, citing personal reasons, before he eventually repaid the loan in one lump sum.

The graduate is one example out of an average of 450 local graduates per year who fail to repay these loans for four consecutive months since the CPF Education Scheme started in 1989.

Responding to media queries, the CPF Board disclosed yesterday - based on data till 2006 - that out of 153,000 graduates who tapped their parents' CPF monies to pay for tertiary education here, 5 per cent have defaulted on their loans.

The fact that not all children repay these CPF monies was cited by Education Minister Ng Eng Hen at a dialogue session on Sunday when asked if CPF could be used to fund overseas education. His worry was that some parents might not have enough money for retirement if this were allowed.

Those enrolled in local tertiary institutions can use up to 40 per cent of their parents' CPF Ordinary accounts to fund their education.

The scheme has flexible instalment plans - ranging from one to 12 years with a minimum monthly repayment of $100, starting one year after they graduate.

If graduates are unable to start repayment due to full-time studies, National Service or unemployment, they can opt for temporary deferment.

Usually, what the CPF Board can do to "protect the interest and financial security of older CPF members" is to send their children reminder letters, "encouraging" them to be prompt in repayment.

Some parents, though, are willing to write off their children's "debt".

This is allowed for parents who are 55 years and above and who have enough for the Minimum Sum and the prevailing Medisave Required Amount in their CPF accounts.

For instance, engineer Tan Teow Seng, 55, whose daughter recently graduated, waived repayments as she is making monthly cash contributions to the household.

His wife, Mdm Julie Kee, told MediaCorp it was the couple's "duty" to see her through university. They will do the same for their younger daughter.

Still, Mrs Josephine Teo, who chairs the Government Parliamentary Committee for Education, felt that more can be done to tackle the issue of defaulters, such as using the child's CPF monies to repay his parents' CPF savings.

"I wouldn't rule out this option for chronic defaulters. The graduate still has time to build up his career and CPF savings. Priority should be given to aged parents," said Mrs Teo, who described the number of defaulters here as "sizeable".

But she also recognised that some graduates may treat this as a way to increase their discretionary spending.
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you should read THE STRAITS TIMES hardcopy, some defaulted not because "they cannot afford it" some defaulted to pursue their material wants, get a car, get apartment etc
not to say they cannot pursue their wants, but i worry for the elderly parents.
are they VERY SURE they can support their elderly parents when they are in their twilight with NOT MUCH RETIREMENT money left BECAUSE the kids never add back for them?
if the kids really need money for NEEDS such as wedding then it cant be helped but for MATERIAL WANTS?

in reality, studies are not cheap, even a local degree cost more than 20K
overseas? 40-100K depending on years of studies.

imagine the kids decided to take advantage of the parents' CPF citing all reasons and THEN REFUSED to support them when they are unable to take care of themselves.

this is not a matter of "parents' duties"
its a matter of "child's duties"

old fashioned it may sound isnt this filial piety all about?

OR ELSE another scenarior, the parents are very capable and cash rich, that's another story all together.

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Positive vibes

from a friend last night.

something that left an imprint on me

"your age is to remind you that you can handle things better"

I will rememeber. grit teeth and bare with it all.

and how others live their lives are up to them
what matters is how i live my OWN Life.

What may be right or 'should be done" to them aint going be superimposed onto me blindly.

Even if i go against the world, as long as i do not go against myself.

**********
on leave today to touch up on assignment which is due today
feels good to be home on a weekday.
calm and relaxing

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

irritating

he is going out again today
which i cannot go cause i need to do my project

and he went out last sat too cause he told me too late and my timing clash with his outing

ARGH

why always like that?

i did the best i could already but always not favourable to me..

Monday, August 23, 2010

Assignment weekend

thanks to dear bf for the company

On Sat, fetched mum from work and went to visit grandpa
Before that had Korean food with her.
Went marketing after grandpa's place and its stay-in sat night and doing assignments

Sun was also spent doing assignments..but with dear :D
makes it more bearable.

Friday, August 20, 2010

Project Status

-SM

Strategy Proposal 25Aug - 75%

Essay 6 oct

-HRD

Group Presentation 19&26 Aug- Completed

Individual Reflection paper 6 Sept

Essay 23 Sept

-WER

Essay 3 Sept-Final Reviewing

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had group presentation yesterday, although there's some hicupps, still acceptable.

must go slow and steady.

tips on saving money

a friend said,

"it's not how much you earn, its how little you can survive on."

you can earn 3+ and spend most of it away
you can earn 1+ and save most of it away

it's not the percentage of savings you have. It's the absoulte amount that counts.
And it's the expenditures that matter.

hmm..

Thursday, August 19, 2010

After

few days of sulking and feeling depress
i feel better already.

just need some time to unwind and recharge.
maybe i place too much expectations on myself, again.

things are looking better now :)
i hope they stay that way, and my mood too.

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

七年之痒

“七年之痒”是个舶来词,意思是说许多事情发展到第七年就会不以人的意志出现一些问题,婚姻当然也不例外。结婚久了,新鲜感丧失。从充满浪漫的恋爱到实实在在的婚姻,在平淡的朝夕相处中,彼此太熟悉了,恋爱时掩饰的缺点或双方在理念上的不同此时都已经充分地暴露出来。于是,情感的“疲惫”或厌倦使婚姻进入了“瓶颈”,如果无法选择有效的方法通过这一“瓶颈”,婚姻就会终结。

*****
dating too long can be hazardous.. especially when it seems stagnant.
taxing on the mind.

5 Reasons to Skip the Diamond Engagement Ring

You're ready. You have the entire scene planned out in your head, every detail plotted and mapped until it's perfect. At the climax of this mini-drama, he will bend on one knee and present to you a beautiful diamond ring -- or, if you're the one proposing, you will watch as her expression changes from surprise to utter delight when she sees the ring. And that's when you'll know: Yes, you're getting married.

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Or so the diamond industry would like you to believe. The sole purpose of this appealing fantasy is to drum up sales. Once you look past the mythos of the diamond engagement ring, you'll see that it's not much more than a shiny rock. (See also 24 secrets from a 24-year-old happy marriage.) Here are five good reasons to skip the diamond engagement ring.

1. It isn't an ancient tradition -- just marketing. For all intents and purposes, "A Diamond is Forever" and the idea of a diamond engagement ring is Sprite's "Obey Your Thirst" and Nike's "Just Do It." It is Gary Dahl's "Pet Rock." De Beers controlled supply by buying up and closing down any diamond mine discovered, and they controlled demand by making it sentimental. Although the campaign is less than 70 years old, it has made the diamond engagement ring the ultimate symbol of how much the relationship, the girl, and love itself is worth.

2. Diamonds are rare! Or not. It's true, diamonds are abundant. For generations, De Beers had stockpiled most of the world's diamond supply and effectively monopolized the industry. Their dominance has weakened over the last decade, but De Beers and its competitors still control the supply of diamonds entering the market. While most gems are valued based on their rarity, diamonds are different. Their scarcity is artificial -- and so is their value.

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3. Other options look just as impressive and cost much less. Moissanite looks just like a diamond; the difference is undetectable with the naked eye. In fact, moissanite is actually more brilliant. If, for whatever reason, you're stuck on the diamond ring idea, synthetic or "cultured" diamonds are the real deal. They're made in a machine that replicates the environmental forces that make diamonds. They're real diamonds, only with less flaws. A synthetic 2-carat pink diamond costs just a few thousand dollars, and a 1-carat moissanite ring is under $1000.

4. You can invest in something more meaningful/useful/fun than a piece of jewelry. Many women simply enjoy having a beautiful collection -- and that's fine (if you can afford it). For most people, though, a diamond engagement ring is fun to show off for about 30 seconds. But it's special, right? Because it marks your engagement and symbolizes your love? Remember, that's De Beers's marketing campaign talking. Three-plus months' salary would be better spent on furnishing your home, an amazing trip, or your future kids' college funds!

5. It's hard to get around the ethical issues surrounding the diamond industry. Terrorist groups use conflict/blood diamonds to finance their activities. Rebel groups use them to fuel conflict and civil wars. In these conflict zones, children are being used as soldiers. The Kimberley Process is an agreement that was established to prevent conflict diamonds from getting into the market, but the self-policing system is far from perfect. One way to fool the Kimberley Process is to smuggle and mix conflict diamonds with legally traded ones before being certified -- and you, the buyer, would be none the wiser.

Lynn Truong is the co-founder and Daily Deals Editor of Wise Bread, a blog dedicated to helping readers live large on a small budget. Wise Bread's book, 10,001 Ways to Live Large on a Small Budget, debuted as the #1 Money Management book on Amazon.com.
http://sg.finance.yahoo.com/news/5-Reasons-to-Skip-the-Diamond-usnews-3977341679.html?x=0

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But i do not believe the ring should be done away with.
the man just have to prepare both the ring and the funds to the wedding and reno and what's not.
it shows how much you value the woman.
marketing conspiracy or not.

Monday, August 16, 2010

On some days

I feel like escaping from EVERYONE.
I seek santuary in my family, especially my mum.
never questions, never ask me why and never tell me what to do.. when i just want some peace and quiet

alittle time away to Jurong Lake with mum and snoopi last sat.
bought mac breakfast there to eat

relaxin.

came home and finally have time to bathe snoopi and groomed him too





snoopi under my dad's arm, both sleeping in this position

and i am very grateful for my parents to take care of snoopi due to my heavy schedule

i am

not happy at all.

and i never never want to be one of those "OL"

zzz

Saturday, August 14, 2010

I will not give up nor will I escape.

Bring it on!

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

No mean feat

juggling work and school projects..

especially i am juggling 3 at one go now.. with two group projects being the tricky ones..

either the pace of the members are different, or too independent or not enough communication or lack of direction..

all messing up my mind..

sometimes i do my projects consecutively amid one another till i lost track..
i dislike this "lost" feeling
i dislike "uncertainity"
i dislike this feeling of helplessness

last sem already, can give me a break?
ARGH!!

Because this is the last sem. i need to push myself MORE!

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

7 years Anniversary

080810

celebrated with dear over the weekends though i was over at dear's place on sat already and only back on mon night lol
helped him with his room and just lazing on his couch watchin tv

too many pics, most in facebook
i just upload some i like here from the actual day

Sat, helped him packed and we bring in 0808 with a cake.

Sun, had breakfast with dear and his sis.
Went moive date in the afternoon to watch SALT.
dear was being nice to catch UFO dolls for me but couldnt manage to catch but its alright :)
dinner at ASTONS PRIME at Centrepoint
Went Marina Bay Sands~

MOn was spent lazing around, doing assignments and watching SCV and then dinner was black pepper crabs with dear's family
dear sent me back after that


7 years 7 gifts for dear lol i am a thoughtful gf ok? :P
all are things that he will like and use


chocolate muffins~

at the stroke of midnight

Marble Slab icecream at ILUMA
Willy WOnka creation

Dinner at ASTONS PRIME
not the usual ASTONS specialities :)

dear's

mine


Crabcake



MARINA SANDS







pepper crab dinner with dear's family on mon night!

pincer is as big as my bowl :D

and so celebration came to an end BUT romance never stops as we continue our journey
:P

long-running relationship .. need lots of effort to keep it burning.
alot of compromising, dejections, encouragments, re-evalation of expectations etc etc

i just realise nowadays, we seem to be the odd couple out lol with couples around us going for short run but quick burst with a few settling or planning to settle early in the relationship, in my point of view

but well, early or not, it's not for me to judge.
as long as they know what's in for them.

for me, i am patiently waiting still AND in the meantime, doing as much things as possible with my time now.

Thursday, August 05, 2010

No Matter

How tired i am
i will bear with this week
rush reading protocols, users' journals, my projects..

all for this weekend.

these few days,
either i am too tired or he's too tired or i have classes and we're both rushing projects

Monday, August 02, 2010

I love

my family :D

i am so glad to have them..especially my hyper mum LOL









from Sat's Dinner at SAKURA

Sunday, August 01, 2010

Family dinner

Had class last wed, thu and fri.. argh... brain cells died alot again.
Had breakfast with mum on sat morning before going school for project again..
Took a cab back, put down my laptop before bringing family to SAKURA at Clementi West Park for dinner ~

First treat after my bonus heh

all the food pics in facebook.
Met dear after dinner and went back his place.

Sun, rained heavily and there was some commotion throughout the day and i only managed to catch some sleep in the afternoon.
Dear and his family went for wedding dinner and i took bus back at night.

*****
updates on dear's room.

his tv console is IN~ (i contributed :P)
and his tv.. from 32inches.. to ..

old tv, 32inch

NOW, 60 inches HD tv :D

for comparison LOL

and now dear has gotten his speaker system working..
HD quality movie experience right at home now :DDD